When I’m offended or hurt by someone’s actions I try to remind myself of this quote: “People aren’t for you or against you; they are for themselves.” Sometimes the things people do for self-preservation looks a lot like selfishness when it comes at the expense of others well-being. We all have moments where we think “it’s me or them” but I think we would all be better off if we had more compassion and empathy. I’ve had bad experiences that made me want to shut down and alienate myself. I would think “why give a damn about what anyone else needs when everyone’s so selfish?” It’s hard not to take it personal but I am a firm believer in treating others as you want to be treated. Sometimes outcomes suck but whether I win or lose I’ve learned that the experience always teaches me something that makes me better, even if it isn’t right away. Isolating myself isn’t survival or self-preservation—it’s lonely. ALSO, getting what I want at the expense of others happiness doesn’t make me feel good either. I know it’s important to set boundaries but I just don’t want to get so obsessed with what I want that I forget about the common good. I think we’d all be happier if we realized the connection between being kind to others and being kind to ourselves. Life is give and take. What you give will always come back to you.
Update: I think of giving up a lot. I feel weak more often than I let on. I get sad and wonder about my purpose or why I feel things so deeply. And I wonder how much more do I have left to give. Then, I come back to a post like this and it reminds me to carry on. We aren’t always our best selves and sometimes we crack but in our weakest moments maybe we just need a little push or a small reminder from the right source to help us march on. 3/7
“If you’re lost and alone and you’re sinking like a stone… Carry on! May your past be the sound of your feet on the ground. Carry on!” ❤️
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